Become unshameable, a workshop.
$25
truth be told
Women experience more shame than men.
We also use it against one another.
And in the professional world, this keeps us from aligning to create a better world for us as a group. When we're too busy hawking other women looking for opportunities to “enlighten” them instead of supporting other women, we all lose out. Though I'm grateful that we have platforms that support calling out injustice that would normally go unaccounted for, I think that the rise in social media use has also created more opportunity for women to shame other women as a means to their own dopamine rush, their own feelings of superiority, their emotional release. The atmosphere this creates is a far cry from community. I think that's why most of us don't actually experience online groups as community spaces. They're more like spaces where we learn survival tactics and brace for call-out and cancellation. It could be so much better, and there ARE amazing humans out there creating spaces that offer true connection, but they're not the kind of spaces that one would call ‘safe’ where basic humanity is replaced by an ever-evolving list of rules to follow. They're based on VALUES, not endless rules. Personal responsibility, not collective policing. And those spaces, well they seem to have one BIG thing in common– they require you check shame at the door.
so, how will this workshop help you?
Shame is powerful. When you stop using it against yourself, you also learn how to stop letting others shame you. And you contribute to communities of connection, rather than control.
You'll learn the definition of shame.
You'll learn about the history of shame.
You'll learn how to identify shame in your body.
You'll learn how to stop accepting shame from others.
You'll learn how to calmly, consciously and kindly remove yourself from shaming situations.
You'll learn how to set boundaries on social, and feel great about it.
You'll learn how to stop shaming others or using self-righteousness as a tactic that builds ‘connection.’
Hi, I'm Steph.
I built a home inside shame for much of my life. I lived with it, on it, under it, beside it, hand-in-hand with it– you name it. That is, until I had the realization that no one is better than me. And that I don't have to even prove that. And that doesn't mean I think I'm better than anyone else. It means that I realized we are all humans of equal value on this planet. Don't confused that with being ‘valued’ which is something bestowed upon another person, and of course there's lots of hierarchies and systems that try to prove and make true that certain folks are less than or more than others. It's all bullshit, though it's alive and well in our world. Realizing that shame was something I used against myself and others was very freeing. I was able to put it down and require any of my personal relationships to have that same value. I carry that into my work, my digital spaces, and even here. If you try to come at me with some attempt to shame, belittle, school, debate or otherwise prove your own worthiness to the group using me as a part in that little play of yours, you'll get yourself a loving but very straightforward ticket out of here. Because I want to set a precedent for us all. We are all equal. I am not better than you, you are not better than me. No one is competing to be seen as the most valuable and trustworthy of the group. It's not fucking Survivor. If you're joining here, you merely want to let shame not be the currency you use to relate to other women, or yourself. Opening a space for coming together does not equal an open invitation for anyone to work out their own emotional happenings on another person, and that gets to include me.
Because I don't allow us to shame one another, you can breathe a sigh of relief upon entering this space. Will we touch on subjects that trigger your shame? Probably, but that's only because you haven't learned how to not self-shame just yet. This experience is going to be freeing, if you come in with vulnerability, openness and grace for self and others.